Dealing with Masturbation Addiction

 
"The greatest pleasure in life is self-control."

Due to popular requests from readers, I have decided to make an indepent post on dealing with masturbation addiction.


Masturbation addiction is a habbit that is difficult to break without self control, discipline and determination. Take it from someone who knows first hand. It is the sexual stimulationof one's own genitals, usually to the point of orgasm. The stimulation can be performed using the hands, fingers, everyday objects, or dedicated s*x toys  


 Masturbation comes in handy for females who fail to achieve orgasm through s*xual penetration. The truth is once you start masturbation, addiction is most likely inevitable and quitting becomes difficult. Although, masturbation has its benefits and disadvantages but addiction to the act is the evil part of masturbation.

 Overcome masturbation addiction by knowing yourself
A constant need to masturbate may represent a lack of physical intimacy or affection in one's life. So rather than addressing the masturbation itself, it may be helpful, as is the case with any 'nervous habit', to explore the areas in life that are lacking (of which excessive masturbation may be a symptom) and address these areas. We all have basic needs for:

• Safety and security in life
• The chance to give and receive quality attention
• Feeling connected to a community
• Feeling status and a sense of achievement
• Having purpose and goals
• Feeling intimate with another human being
• Feeling challenged so as to avoid boredom.

Meeting these needs in your life helps you avoid boredom and a sense of meaninglessness.


Of course, masturbation only provides a temporary 'fix' or escape. To really make your life more fulfilling, you need to address your real needs.
Take a long look at your life. Are some of the above needs not being met adequately? Could excessive masturbation be masking an unmet need?

Remove anything that tempts your urge to masturbate like Access to pornographic materials, Boredom, Loneliness 

Find another outlet for your time and energy. Fill your life with engaging activities. The excitement of doing something different can help replace the urge to masturbate

• Get creative. The process of turning sexual urges into creative output (called sublimation) is something on which monks and sages have relied upon for centuries. Start writing, learn to play a musical instrument, paint, draw, or do whatever else makes you feel like you're doing something productive.
• Do sports
• Eat healthy.
• Find a new hobby, or cultivate a skill. Learning something that takes a while to master can refocus your brain on the delayed gratification of achieving goals instead of the instant gratification of masturbation.
• Volunteer your time. Devote your energy to helping people who've been less fortunate than you

Be persistent and patient.
If you've tried everything and just can't seem to get your addiction under control, it might be time to tell someone else about your problem and ask for assistance. Don't feel ashamed, and remember that many people have similar problems like an addiction. Seeking help is a brave action, and most people you ask will see it as such.

Don't be 'all or nothing' about itYou don't have to 'cure masturbation', as some may even be healthy, but if you feel it takes up way too much of your time and focus then consciously start to set limits.


If you currently masturbate every day, then start cutting down by a day per fortnight. Literally begin to wean yourself from daily masturbation. Tell yourself: "Right, this week I am going to have a day off on Wednesday" (or whatever day you choose) and stick to it. Use this day or evening actively trying to meet a basic need that may have been neglected (i.e. phone a friend and make plans).


Notice what you do instead. But make that promise to yourself and no matter what that little part of your brain does to try to get you doing it – don't! After two weeks, add another day off. Continue to do this until you are down to a level with which you feel comfortable.


If you break your own rules, then 'make up the day' by choosing another day of the week, but focus on the numbers. And don't masturbate twice on one day because you missed it on another. Talking of numbers: there are only a certain number of hours in the day...

Stay busy; the devil makes work for idle hands

Unless we are truly deranged, we need private opportunity to masturbate. Fill your time with situations in which masturbation would end up as local newspaper material. Book up to see friends, go to church, ski, or visit the local library.


Teach your body not to expect masturbation so often. It will get the message and, sooner than you think, it will feel more normal to do it less. Actively taking steps to fill up your time may also be a way of diminishing boredom or loneliness, which may have been contributing factors to the excessive masturbation in the first place.


 "The greatest pleasure in life is self-control."

You are not alone in fighting this act. Masturbation is very common amonmg males and females. I wish you success as you make effort to break the addiction.

 Have you successfully dealt with masturbation addiction? Do share other tips you tried that is not listed here.