Blog reader wants to know: What is Orgasm and Is it real?

I received this mail from a female blog reader asking what orgasm really is and if its real as she had never experienced it in her adult life.


Orgasm is also known as sexual climax. It is the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual tension during the sexual response cycle, resulting in rhythmic muscular contraction in the pelvic region characterized by sexual pleasure.

According to several major surveys, only 25 percent of women always climax during sex with a partner. The rest of us either hit — or miss — depending on the night, or never experience a female orgasm during intercourse at all. Compared to the male version (more than 90 percent of men get it 100 percent of the time), the female orgasm is a fleeting phenomenon.


 How it happens
 As you become more turned on, blood flows to flood the pelvic area, breathing speeds up, heart rate increases, nipples become erect, and the lower part of the vagina narrows in order to grip the pe*** while the upper part expands to give it someplace to go. An incredible amount of nerve and muscle tension builds up in the genitals, pelvis, buttocks, and thighs — until your body involuntarily releases it all at once in a series of intensely pleasurable waves, aka your orgasm.

The big bang is the moment when the uterus, vagina, and anus contract simultaneously at 0.8-second intervals. A small orgasm may consist of three to five contractions; a biggie, 10 to 15. Many women report feeling different kinds of orgasms — clitoral, vaginal, and many combinations of the two.


The most fascinating orgasmic side effect of all happens in the brain. During the big moment, the hypothalamus releases extra oxytocin into your system. Called the "cuddle hormone," oxytocin has been correlated with the urge to bond, be affectionate, and protect and is also being linked to our ability to trust.


The question now is why is female orgasm so elusive? Let me also say that the sex of a baby conceived has been linked to whether the mother had orgasm during the act or not but those are discussions for another day.

Hope this helps?